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How do I handle…Tips for Equine Assisted Coaching

…when I only get 1 or 2 people in my workshops?

One of the most important things I ever learned came from my husband, Paul.  When we first met, over 26 years ago!!!, we played music together.  I would get so worried that I would make a mistake and people would KNOW that I didn’t do everything perfectly!

This is when Paul said to me, “Lisa, don’t you know that no one knows anything?”.  This was so freeing to me.  While I didn’t stop practicing and developing my skill as a musician, I no longer felt such pressure to be perfect.  I also took this learning and apply it daily—I have to as a pioneer in this field.  If I didn’t, I would be too afraid to do anything!

So…back to workshops not being filled.  Here are a couple of tips.

  1. Go ahead…advertise and market your workshop…no one knows how filled it is unless you tell them!  The energy you put out and the invitation you extend will make a difference to your business; regardless of whether it happens right away.
  2. Over-deliver and under-promise!  Just because you didn’t fill your workshop it doesn’t mean that you give any less!  This pure heartfelt energy will impact the growth of your business as well; just as a ‘poverty’ energy will.
  3. Act ‘as though’ this situation is perfect!  Because it really is…we just need a little shift in perspective.  The universe is so generous and it is its nature to give us what we want.  However, if we don’t let go of how we think ‘it’ should look, we are closing the doors to possibilities that are far greater than we can imagine!!

So, let me ask you….how is your current situation perfect for you right now??  Want to chat, just post your perfection and questions here!

How do I handle…Tips for Equine Assisted Coaching

…when I only get 1 or 2 people in my workshops?

One of the most important things I ever learned came from my husband, Paul.  When we first met, over 26 years ago!!!, when we played music together.  I would get so worried that I would make a mistake and people would KNOW that I didn’t do everything perfectly!

This is when Paul said to me, “Lisa, don’t you know that no one knows anything?”.  This was so freeing to me.  While I didn’t stop practicing and developing my skill as a musician, I no longer felt such pressure to be perfect.  I also took this learning and apply it daily—I have to as a pioneer in this field.  If I didn’t, I would be too afraid to do anything!

So…back to workshops not being filled.  Here are a couple of tips.

  1. Go ahead…advertise and market your workshop…no one knows how filled it is unless you tell them!  The energy you put out and the invitation you extend will make a difference to your business; regardless of whether it happens right away.
  2. Over-deliver and under-promise!  Just because you didn’t fill your workshop it doesn’t mean that you give any less!  This pure heartfelt energy will impact the growth of your business as well; just as a ‘poverty’ energy will.
  3. Act ‘as though’ this situation is perfect!  Because it really is…we just need a little shift in perspective.  The universe is so generous and it is its nature to give us what we want.  However, if we don’t let go of how we think ‘it’ should look, we are closing the doors to possibilities that are far greater than we can imagine!!

So, let me ask you….how is your current situation perfect for you right now??  Want to chat, just post your perfection and questions on my blog!

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Getting Ready for the Live Streamed Coaching Salon

We are so excited…we made a video for you!

 

 

Hope to see you there! Click here to register!

With ease and grace, Lisa Murrell

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Live Streaming Coaching Salon Conversation Starters!

This is the place!!  Just post your comments and answers to the conversation videos and we will get this started!

I am so excited to hear from you about our upcoming Free Coaching Salon, Coaching through the Heart, on December 13.  Here is the video of the first question! 

 

With ease and grace, Lisa Murrell

 

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How do I handle…Tips for Equine Assisted Coaching

…when someone in the group seems to be sabotaging the group’s experience?


• If during the workshop this person continues to impact the experience of the entire group it is perfectly ok, and perhaps necessary, for you to take a break and speak to this person privately. Remind them of their personal expectations for the workshop. Ask if those expectations are being met and, if not, how can you both work together to make that happen. Also clarify your responsibility to the group and their safety and expectations. Remind them that this is a group experience and if things don’t seem to work in this format that it might be best for them to leave and you will be happy to discuss this further after the workshop.

• This last tip is for those of you who may be more advanced. If you feel that the energy of someone is negatively impacting the group, redirect that energy by letting them know how you feel, I.e. “I am feeling anxious about the group energy or dynamic. I feel some tension and negativity. Is it just me?” Then ask the group how they feel. This does two things; takes the focus off of the potential ‘saboteur’ and takes care of the group dynamic by giving participants an opportunity to give voice to their concerns and validate their feelings. Just make sure they talk about how THEY feel, not about anyone else. This is an opportunity for people to own their feelings in a safe environment. It is also about naming the elephant in the room—or horse as the case may be!, creating congruence. Remember, in EFL, congruence is absolutely necessary for safety!

You never know when someone will be triggered by their vulnerability around the horses, so it is best to expect that this might happen. Most importantly, you must ask yourself before the workshop, “Do I have the appropriate training and skills to handle this type of situation?” If you aren’t sure, ask a colleague or mentor. I am always here to give you an objective ear!

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The Shadow in Equine Assisted Coaching and Therapy

My friend and colleague, Schelli Whitehouse, shared some interesting mythic wisdom with regards to the period of year we are now entering beginning today…Wisdom that is very interesting for Equine Assisted Coaches and Therapy who are working with the ‘shadow’ aspect of the human psych; those unrecognized and un-accepted aspects of ourselves hold important wisdom –wisdom that when acknowledged, often leads to self love and fulfillment.

Kim McElroy's 'Shadow Dancer'

In the northern hemisphere, sunset tonight ushers in the Celtic season of Samhain. During this window between Samhain/All Hallow’s Eve and Christmas/Solstice/Midwinter, the veil between the worlds is thin and our ancestors are most accessible to us. It is also the beginning of the dark half of the year, a time to become more intimate with the hidden, mysterious, “shadow” aspects of ourselves.

In the west our egos tend to avoid the dark. We yearn for perennial spring and summer. But we can’t have light without darkness and, as writer Annie Dillard reminds us “you do not have to sit in the dark. If you want to see the stars, however, darkness is necessary.”

Like all aspects of duality, light and darkness are two sides of the same coin. The experiences that shatter our egos are also the situations that lead us (if we let them) directly to our heart’s truest desires. It is only in resisting some aspects of our experience and clinging to others that we create suffering for ourselves.

You may have heard the story of Persephone, one of the goddesses of ancient Greece. According to Greek mythology, Persephone was Queen of the Underworld. I grew up learning that Persephone became Queen after Hades abducted her and took her to the Underworld. Interestingly, as an adult I learned a different version.

In the more ancient telling of Persephone’s story, she is picking flowers in a beautiful field one day when she hears the plaintive cries of the dead emerging from a cleft in the earth. Her heart opens in compassion and she feels a pull to answer their call.

Although she is young and afraid to leave the realm of perpetual light and pleasure where her Mother Demeter rules, Persephone faces her fear, surrenders her innocence and enters into the unknown with her eyes open. And it is only in the Underworld, where she faces the cries of the lonely and confused souls amidst cold and darkness, that she finds her power and becomes a Queen in her own right.

What does Persephone’s story tell us about creating more of what we want? Paradoxically, when we stay in the world that we know and push the feelings, ideas and experiences that make us uncomfortable “underground,” our power is limited.

When we are willing to go wherever our souls may lead us, particularly when we are armed with compassion, then we become Queens and Kings. We are Masters and Mistresses of the Universe. And because there is nowhere we are unwilling to go, anything becomes possible.

You can choose which Persephone you would like to be—the one who walks consciously into the Underworld, or the one who goes kicking and screaming, too distressed to see where she is going.

Life will take you into the Underworld, there is no doubt. If you enter it willingly, resolving that while you are there you may as well learn something, you are likely to remember the way out. It is when you deny that the Underworld exists, or spend all of your energy avoiding it, that you get abducted. When you are taken to the Underworld without your consent, it is much harder to find your way out.

November 8 – 10 I will be co-facilitating “Coaching Mastery and Marketing for Wealth ~ with Horse Power!” During this experience we are going to take a journey with your personal Archetypes and connect with both the Brilliant as well as the Shadow aspects of ‘who-you-really-are’ in regards to your business.

This is a 2 ½ day in person experience totally focused on the unique brilliance, purpose and personality of your business! Yes, there will be periods of ‘darkness’ in this process. And you will be given the tools to light your own candle, flashlight or headlamp! Plus, a map to guide you the rest of the way!

If you feel that you are presently ‘in the dark’ with what needs to happen next for your personal and professional growth, I urge you to learn more about this workshop.

The workshop is limited to 8 participants and there are only 3 places available. To learn more and register please visit: http://www.equinealchemy.com/programs/coachingmasteryandmarketing/

Some of the participants have been studying coaching mastery through the way of the horse, with master coach Lisa Murrell, our host and co-facilitator for this experience. A few of them already have thriving coaching practices and are expanding and up-leveling their businesses and others are brand new to the industry and just learning the importance of sharing a clear, direct message for a specific tribe of people.

Wherever you are on this spectrum of business development you can be sure that your specific needs will be addressed both emotionally and practically.

Take a look at what Lisa and I have put together for you and contact me if you have any questions.

http://www.equinealchemy.com/programs/coachingmasteryandmarketing/

Don’t wait, the price for this extraordinary experience goes up tomorrow, November 1st.

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Don’t Miss a Step: Take Time to Celebrate!

Celebrate what? You may be asking? After all, look at the state of things; of our businesses, our lives, and our earth. What place could celebration possibly have in any of this?

Good question…But celebration is more critical in times of challenge and struggle than you might think.

If you look at your goals right now, you may think you are a long way from reaching them. Look more closely…you have actually achieved some and not others.

This some is the catalyst and launch pad for the others.

The path of a goal, whether a goal set for your personal life or in the course of business, is generally seen as having four steps:

  1. assess the situation
  2. set goals for how you want it to be
  3. take steps to achieve the goals
  4. achieve the goals (completion)

After Step 4, many people return to Step 1 with the question: “OK, what’s next?” And then it’s on to Step 2 and 3 and 4 again.

Hold on. Stop right there.

There is actually a very important step that many of us leave out. What so many of us leave out is the celebration of the ‘some’! Each step of the path to achieving a goal is an opportunity for celebration. In fact, taking the time for celebration and gratitude gives us the opportunity to:

  • Capture the learning. When we take stock of what we’ve learned along the way to our goals, we can consciously incorporate those lessons in next steps and the future.
  • Acknowledge our internal resources. In achieving goals, we bring forth various internal resources, such as courage and persistence, to meet the challenges. To have others acknowledge us—and to give ourselves credit, as well—is deeply satisfying. Too often, we miss seeing these qualities in ourselves and others. Acknowledging our strengths has the power to call us forth to use them even more.
  • Build a sense of unity. Nothing can bond people more than striving toward a common goal and then sharing in the joy of the achievement. However, if you don’t stop to appreciate the people who helped make it happen, connection and goodwill can break down. Your team will feel more inclined to go the extra mile if you give them the appreciation they deserve.
  • Send a message to the Universe. Stopping to savor and celebrate your successes sends the message out into the Universe that you know how to appreciate this success and that you are ready for more!
  • Have fun! Knowing that you get to celebrate in a fun way after your goal is achieved is a great motivator. You’ve done a fantastic job—of course you want to be rewarded with some fun and enjoyment. You deserve it!

There are countless ways to celebrate and savor your successes. Whatever brings you a sense of joyous completion is the ticket. Be as creative as you can!

Life is a journey, not just a destination. Celebrating the ‘some’ is celebrating this journey. Where can you celebrate your journey? What ‘some’ is happening right now that will be the catalyst for your ‘others’?

I would love to hear! Just reach out and let me know about your journeys as part of that celebration!!

With ease and grace, Lisa Murrell

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Go Back to Grazing

Horses are my saving grace. They are my own personal coaching with horses! They treat emotions as information and then go back to grazing. That’s emotional agility…something we could all use development in…

What emotions are you feeling or not feeling? Want to find out the information behind these feeling? Coaching with horses is the most immediate ways I know of to find out. Give me a call at 845-687-4324 or reach out to Lisa@equinealchemy.com!

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Leadership in the Present Moment

Personal leadership has many facets.  One of which is being ok with NOT KNOWING!

Coaches Simon and Spanky give us a lesson in authentic leadership and what that entails!  Enjoy!

What part does YOUR personal leadership play in your life?  Is it authentic?  Do you have an authentic community where your personal leadership plays an important role?  These are questions we here at Equine Alchemy explore deeply and then help you get on a path to powerful action.

We begin with a Personal Leadership assessment.  Sign up in the box to the right, and you qualify for a complimentary discovery session to explore your results and their impact on your life!  Find out the role you are playing in creating your present and future by contacting us, taking the Personal Leadership Assessment, or giving me a call at 845-687-4324!

With ease and grace, Lisa Murrell

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Right Action

Right Action is not only one of the 7 Secrets to a Successful Business; it is an underlying principle in all of them.

Many of you have let me know that you are not sure what Right Action is for you. Therefore, I thought it would be a good idea to explore this a bit.

What is Right Action and how do you know what it is?

Right Action is about coming from the heart and giving yourself permission to invest in…

  • Yourself
  • the right Business Model
  • the right Strategic Plan
  • the right Implementation Plan

Let me ask you this?

How many of you have all three of these? Congratulations!

You are well on your way to your money making business!!

The right action for you is to know when to act and when to practice Zen and the art of inaction. Discernment is the key here.

How many of you have two of these? Terrific…except if the one you don’t have is the Implementation Plan. The best business models and strategic plans are only as good as their implementation plans. The right action for you is to get one of those implementation plans asap!

How many of you have only one of these? This is a great start! The right action for you is to ask for support in creating the other 2 to manifest the life and business you want and start making the cash flow!

And now, how many of you don’t have any of these three basics of right action? Perfect!! This is a time of opportunity in your life. It is time for you to finally create the life and business you always wanted. The right action for you is to believe and invest in yourself to help you realize that you are the secret to having all of this.

I know this is because I have been through the same process and have asked myself the same questions.

And, I’ve chosen to invest in myself in a very big way. It’s the only way to get where I want to go. And you know what?

It feels great! Not only the work that I am doing, but the fact that I am declaring to myself and to others,“Yes! I am  absolutely worth investing in!”, is changing how I move in the world.

I feel bigger, bolder, stronger and even more purposeful. And I am working my heart out to make sure I get every single penny’s worth of value from my investment.

Now that you have an idea of where you are in the context of Right Action, what do you need to do? What action do you need to take?

Ask yourself these two questions:

1) What’s the cost of staying right where I am?

2) Am I worth investing in?

And, if it feels like the right thing to do, come join me! Reaching out is the first step! Just give me a call and we will set up some time to explore your next steps to Right Action.

Is applying for Virtual Round Pen Group Business Coaching the right action for you?

How about Conscious Reinvention through the Way of the Horse—one on one private coaching with me?

I am here; ready to help you step into one Right Action after the other. Even in this particularly challenging time, I am living my dreams and want you to do the same.

With ease and grace, Lisa Murrell

PS One of my Right Actions is to build a community of like hearted people and share our resources with them so that they can manifest those dreams. I am looking forward to building the Equine Alchemy Herd; with YOU!

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Ten Step Formula for Creating Coaching Value and how you may be getting in your own way!

Ten Step Formula for Creating Coaching Value and how you may be getting in your own way!‘Emotional Bonding in Coaching Success’

”How do I drive more revenue?”  That is the biggest concern of my clients; both individual and organization.

The simple solution is some formula for making money that will work for that individual or business, right?

If that were the case then every single coaching session would be about sales and marketing.  Interestingly enough, however, sales and marketing have less to do with making more money than you think.  In fact, focusing on sales and marketing to the exclusion of other critical components can be the WRONG thing to do.

In working with my clients I have found that there are two major reasons why focusing on how to make more money is not working for them.

#1  From just hearing their request, whether it is in writing or in person, I can feel the tension in their ‘voice’.  I can see just how rigid this request is.  It feels contracted, closed, almost desperate in some situations.  This request is often made at the ‘expense’ of everything else.

I ask them how they feel when they make this request and this tension escalates and/or completely deflates as they make their case for why they must make more money and that it is the most important thing in their lives, businesses or this particular moment.

It is only from this place of fear, desperation, and ‘emptiness’ that we can begin the needed conversation of how to ‘create more abundance’ rather than ‘drive more revenue’ or ‘make more money’.

We then begin the exploration of what it feels like to reframe their request from ‘more money’ to ‘creating abundance’ and the difference is palpable.  Their faces light up and they begin to talk about what is really important to them.  Things like their health, their family, their relationships, and yes, their passions.  This energy feels great!  It is full of possibility, it is open and expanded!  This is quite the opposite of the initial feeling of ‘I must make more money’, however true the latter statement may be!

In his new book, ‘The Soul of Leadership’, Deepak Chopra speaks in depth about ‘Emotional Bonding’ and its critical role in leadership.  He says; ‘To create an emotional bond with others you must be willing to build real relationships. Share yourself; take a personal interest in others.’ One of the most important aspects of masterful coaching is personal leadership which involves building a healthy relationship with yourself first.

This emotional bonding component is missing for most coaches when they are trying to ‘sell’ their services or ‘make more money’.

  • How can you share yourself when you don’t respect and love yourself?
  • How can you take a personal interest in others when you are not interested in yourself as much as you are interested in making money?
  • How can you offer guidance and support in the form of coaching to someone when you don’t do the same for yourself?

Coaching requires congruence—being who you say you are; walking your talk.  Interestingly, working with horses—yes, horses, who perceive energetically through their advanced sensory systems, can show us our unconscious influences at work by how they react to them.  While we may not be aware of them, they are.  Humans are aware of these unconscious influences of others as well, but not consciously.

Therefore, I have come up with a formula for creating coaching value that illustrates how you may be getting in your own way….

Ten Step Formula for Creating Coaching Value and how you may be getting in your own way:

  1. If your main focus in on making money and the stress that it evokes,
  2. No matter what your offer,
  3. Your potential clients are picking up on your unconscious anxieties about ‘closing the sale’
  4. This creates incongruence on an unconscious level.
  5. This blocks any kind of emotional bonding.
  6. Research shows that most purchases are made through emotions rather than intellect.
  7. If there is no emotional connection, this obviously impacts your sale!
  8. Coaching value is gained through emotional bonding.
  9. Because this is true, the quality of your relationship with your client determines the success of your coaching agreement even more than your coaching skill.
  10. If potential clients can’t feel that value from the moment they meet you, through your marketing materials or a phone conversation or in person meeting, then they can’t perceive the value coaching with you could bring.

Which part of this formula rings true for you?  Are you emotionally bonding with your potential and current clients?

Are you in growth contraction, or the expansion?

If you want to have a conversation to explore your ‘financial’ state of mind so that you can get on with your business of being a successful master coach,  give me a call.

With ease and grace, Lisa Murrell

PS -
Would you like some support in your explorations? Why don’t we have a conversation?  You can sign up for a F.R.E.E 15 minute consultation with me any time here:  https://My.TimeDriver.com/34PF1.

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