What do you want NOW that may not be the best for you in the long run?  Would love to hear!

1.  Emotional Agility–this ‘master skill’ as I call it is getting a lot of attention.  People seem to be realizing that    emotions have a role to play in our lives!!  Who would have thought?  The horses for one!  They taught me everything, well almost everything, I know about emotions and the wisdom behind them.  I guess I am not the only one who thinks this is very cool.

For example:  Did you know that the message behind sadness is about letting go of something?  That we need to let go of this thing, person, belief or assumption for our own good?  That sadness actually has an important function in our lives?

2.  Self Care–Along with the realization that our emotions are part of us, many of us are also noticing how important our bodies are!  That we need to take care of them; that there is a relationship between the quality of our lives and how we feel–inside and out.            

Conclusions?  Several; one of which is that there is a real connection between what is going on inside and what is going on outside in our lives and bodies.  When I came across the concept of Spiritual Warrior, It really resonated with it.  This inspired me to come up with a plan to further that connection and a structure to support this plan.  And this evolved into the Ten Practices of a Spiritual Warrior.

Now I am looking to see any connection between paying attention to something; i.e. emotions and self care; and doing something about it!  Stay tuned.

I guess I decided somewhere in my soul that enough is enough this past weekend at the Wealthy Thought Leader with Andrea J. Lee and so many other fab folks.  This event is around ‘Income through Innovation’ and was definitely no disappointment!

As I was sitting there, and dancing, and laughing and talking, and meeting amazing, innovative people like me, the ‘shift’ hit the fan!  I realized that I am the opening!  How I see things is the ‘shift’ that I have been looking for.

This event was such a sacred space of possibility that I couldn’t help but jump into that possibility and guess what I found?  That pool of inspiration and innovation within myself.  What a cool feeling.

I encourage you to jump into that sacred space of possibility, too!  And see what you can find! Here’s a first step for you, Jonathan Field’s new book, Uncertainty, Turning Fear and Doubt into Fuel for Brilliance.

Uncertainty: Turning Fear and Doubt into Fuel for Brilliance by Jonathan Fields

I am sure you will find some of what you have been looking for!  I would love to hear what resonates for you!

Profound insights were found by all and the magic continues. In the midst of this storm, we found ways to maintain center and calm…supported by our equine guides. Ken and Spider persevered and are still with us!

Enjoy the 5 essential clues to relationship coaching at:

http://www.choice-online.com/new/digitalissues/choice_v10n1_Issue0312_VyZimkQS.pdf

In preparation for that class yesterday, I went to the barn and rode Coach Tibor, my jumping and dressage horse.

I didn’t have a lot of time but enjoyed a nice ride anyway.  When I returned him to the field, I was in a rush to get back and prepare for my class.  This class was on Emotional Agility so I thought I would ask the masters, my herd, what they had to tell me about it.

Coach Simon was very clear…there was enough time for everything.  He almost bit my watch in response to my anxiety over time. I got the message and stopped.  I began feeling myself fully and then him.  Then he came close and began breathing very specifically and I noticed I wasn’t breathing.  He actually began breathing for me until we join together in healing prana, the breath.

As I became more and more present he began releasing with big yawns and shaking himself.  He would look back at me and ask me for still more presence.  I went deeper and deeper into myself.  He continued to release the anxiety and blocked energy for me as the other members of the herd held the sacred space.

At one point I opened my eyes and looked up.  Simon had moved on…his job done.  Thank you, Simon. You are right, there IS time for everything.

When is the last time you told yourself you didn’t have enough time?  You might try on a different mantra, and breathe.

I call this ‘overwhelm’.  So many things and so little time.

My advice to this epidemic state…

1. Breathe—It is truly amazing how much we do not breathe during the day.  I find this particularly obvious in my yoga classes!  It is as though my brain and body floods with awareness and focus when I breathe!  Imagine what would happen with that perspective?
2. Slow down—Recently one of my healthcare practioners told me that I should save some of the energy I am gaining from some adrenal supplements.  Whereas the support I am gaining the my body’s battle with stress is apparent, I must ‘save’ and store some of this new found energy so that my body can go back to functioning optimally on its own.  This seems so simple, but I was continuing to do more with each bit of additional energy!  I guess I can’t hear it enough, slow down…

So many wonderful ‘horse people’ have told me that I only need to whisper to horses.  We don’t need to yell!  That our actions need to be so small for horses to be in collaborative relationship with us.

Breathing and slowing down are whispers.

So, let me ask you…. How are you ‘yelling’ at your body wishing for a collaborative relationship?

Take a look and enjoy! http://horsejourney.com/horse-journey-blog

• Use the behavior as ‘just information’.  From a systems coaching perspective; simply put—how you do anything is how you do everything, how you handle this will give you important information on how your client manages their life and challenges.  If they are late with you, how does this impact the value they are getting from their session?  How does it tell you how they may sabotaging themselves by asking for value and cutting it short by not showing up in the best way to receive that value?

• Because our coaching clients seem to be our mirrors, this is an opportunity for you to be honest with yourself.  How does their behavior reflect yours?  It could be that you haven’t clearly dealt with expectations for the session.  It could be that you haven’t set clear boundaries for how you are going to work together.  In any case, how are YOUR boundaries around setting a container or structure for the greatest value impacting the time your client shows up?  It may be time for you to make some adjustments around the coaching agreement.

Coaching is never ‘just about the client’.  There is just as much to gain about and for ourselves from the relationship if we are truly master coaches.

Also, remember there is always some kind of ‘payoff’ from everything we do…even if it is unconscious!

So, let me ask you….how is what is happening perfect for you right now??   What is the benefit of your behavior(s) and how is that impacting value to your clients?

One of the most important things I ever learned came from my husband, Paul.  When we first met, over 26 years ago!!!, when we played music together.  I would get so worried that I would make a mistake and people would KNOW that I didn’t do everything perfectly!

This is when Paul said to me, “Lisa, don’t you know that no one knows anything?”.  This was so freeing to me.  While I didn’t stop practicing and developing my skill as a musician, I no longer felt such pressure to be perfect.  I also took this learning and apply it daily—I have to as a pioneer in this field.  If I didn’t, I would be too afraid to do anything!

So…back to workshops not being filled.  Here are a couple of tips.

1. Go ahead…advertise and market your workshop…no one knows how filled it is unless you tell them!  The energy you put out and the invitation you extend will make a difference to your business; regardless of whether it happens right away.
2. Over-deliver and under-promise!  Just because you didn’t fill your workshop it doesn’t mean that you give any less!  This pure heartfelt energy will impact the growth of your business as well; just as a ‘poverty’ energy will.
3. Act ‘as though’ this situation is perfect!  Because it really is…we just need a little shift in perspective.  The universe is so generous and it is its nature to give us what we want.  However, if we don’t let go of how we think ‘it’ should look, we are closing the doors to possibilities that are far greater than we can imagine!!

So, let me ask you….how is your current situation perfect for you right now??  Want to chat, just post your perfection and questions on my blog!